Happy Sunday my good people! I appreciate all the love I've been getting about my first post via comments, texts, tweets, etc. Thanks for the support thus far. Anywho, I've had a number of conversations and experiences lately that have influenced this next post. It all comes down to this: Can one be deeply in love and still chase the money or his/her dreams?
Theorem 1: Money + Power = Respect
Theorem 1.1: Money + Love = Compromise????
Half of you are probably snapping your fingers to Theorem 1.1, but the other half are shaking your heads in disgust. Let me explain. "Money" is an umbrella term that includes high salary careers, entrepreneurship, Forbes list dreams, etc. If you fall into any of those categories, chances are you're starting to get worried that you'll be single forever. Your love of success and that green piece of paper trumps any relationship any day. Ok maybe that's not the case, BUT if you're under that money umbrella, you really don't have time to be invested in anything else until you feel you are well-established. Perhaps you want to settle down after you've traveled the world and have enough life experiences under your belt. Whatever the case may be, I personally don't think you can wholeheartedly pursue love and success at the same time because one of those things will be half-assed.
Speaking from experience, I recently passed up an amazing relationship to pursue my dreams. There are girls who would've killed to have the relationship I did. However, I am so invested in building my own financial practice that there is no calendar space for love. If love has to be scheduled, then that's the biggest red flag you'll ever see. Success and love both require time. It's all about deciding how much you want to give to each or which one you want to give all your time to. Right now, success and flexibility is more important to me. I want to be able to wake up one day and say "I want to live in Paris for a year" and just pack my stuff and go. Most people prefer the comfort of waking up to someone they care about or the sense of security you get from knowing somebody loves you, but quite frankly I can do without for now. They say if you have something good, you should hold onto it. I think that you shouldn't hold onto something good just for the sake of having something good, especially if you don't/can't reciprocate any of that "goodness." If you're not ready, you're just NOT ready.
Let me say this though: this concept only applies when one is in PURSUIT of the money. If you're already happy where you are, don't use this as an excuse for why you're still single. Maybe you just have some serious issues. Kidding. But I have noticed more and more women are single and still dating in their 40s because of the independent epidemic that has swept over us. People say that a man is intimidated by a very successful woman. I wouldn't really call it intimidated; I just think he wants to feel like a man 100% of the time...not when it's convenient for you. Let him take care of you when he's ready. It is better to want a man than to need him, but it's even better when a man wants you period. If you've reached a point where you're not even attracting anyone, then you've probably taken the money thing tooooo far.
All this to say that life is about risks. Sometimes you just really have to do what's best for you right now. Compromise can wait. If you're not selfish now, when will you ever get your chance?
"It is better to be wrong and in the bed, then right and on the couch." Sometimes we have to take a loss to recognize when we've won. Always put yourself first. Things will work out the way they're supposed to.
Thoughts?
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